coaching for those in transition
I Coach for Positive and Fulfilling Change of Mid-Lifers, End-of-Careerers, Returning or Retiring Veterans, Recovering Addicts, Former Inmates and Others of Us Moving Into New Chapters of Life
Coaching for Those in Transition
For Those Who Had The Rug Pulled Out From Under Them
It sounds so cliche.... the words, 'You Are Not Alone'. They can ring so hollow. Yet those words are also true. I've been here (and still go there) and I can relate. I have been on top of the world and in the depths of despair, overwhelm and utter confusion. Change is tough to handle - particularly when it comes unexpectedly like a thief in the night. One day, you are excitedly working to fulfill your hopes and dreams or just simply basking in the glow of their realization. The next day, your world is shattered by something completely unexpected or perhaps a consequence of actions you have taken or not taken. At this point, it doesn't really matter because all a person wants is relief. And then comes (if it hasnt already) the self-blame, the guilt, the rage and perhaps the absolute terror. And maybe shame either front and center or so well hidden you don't even know what it is. And likely as not, words at this point cannot even express any of these feelings.
I do not think I can say anymore that would be helpful,
but I can share a verse from the poet Dana Faulds that really speaks to me.
'WHEN LOSS RIPSS OFF THE DOORS OF THE HEART, OR SADNESS VEILS YOUR VISION WITH DESPAIR,
PRACTICE SIMPLY BECOMES BEARING THE TRUTH'
As a coach personally well versed in deep transition and the turmoil that accompanies it, I walk with individuals during their own unique trying times as a relatable travelling companion in this journey called life. While this is YOUR walk into the Great Mystery, perhaps I can help shoulder the load at times when it gets too heavy to bear alone. And I can ask evocative questions and provide other tools that may assist you as you work to recover your ground and move forward in the ressurection of your real life.
Call me for an initial consultation and to see if we might be a good fit for one another.
For the Addict (That Means Most All of Us)
I used to think that to be an addict one had to be hooked on drugs, alcohol, sex or perhaps work. I've since learned that human beings can become compulsive about and addicted to any number of things, including activities that are socially acceptable. Its possible, and debatable, that the damages done by a do-gooding churchaholic mother pale in comparison to an alcoholic father that openly and regularly beats his children. But both commit what has been termed 'soul murder' on their vulnerable children. This creates a dis-ease of lost Selfhood (or co-dependency), a very painful condition that plagues all humans to some degree. Co-dependency is often accompanied by a dis-ease of profound Self-abandonment (addiction). This is psychological speak for a person whose True Self is in hiding and nowhere to be found, so as a result the ego and its various parts overcompensate and completely run the person's life. This often is the end result of significant relational trauma. It is easier to speak of this than heal from it on an experiential level. But while it doesn't feel like it in the beginning stages of recovery, blessed is the person who suffers the fall! There is a chance through this extra-ordinary opportunity of incredible suffering for the wounded to find his or her way back Home.
For Those Who Have Had A Great Fall
What is it about failure that we are so averse to? Why do we build the pedestals and walls that we then can sit so pompously upon (while pretending that we are not)? While painful, are not some of our most important lessons learned only after we fall? But ohh, the shattering - sometimes it is so complete that we lose all sense of self and there seems no way out. Just remember.....
'HUMPTY DUMPTY SAT ON A WALL
HUMPTY DUMPTY HAD A GREAT FALL
ALL THE KING'S HORSES AND ALL THE KING'S MEN
COULDN'T PUT HUMPTY TOGETHER AGAIN'
But Humpty could!!!
The way out is the way through.
If you suspect that you could benefit from a travelling companion on this journey of re-membering yourself, please give me a call and lets assess our abilities to fit and work well together.